🤯 You Were Programmed by Abuse

“Your anxiety? Your perfectionism? That constant fear of doing something wrong? It’s not just you. It’s the program they installed.”

Let that sink in for a moment.

So many of us walk around carrying an invisible weight—overthinking, people-pleasing, second-guessing every word we speak or every move we make. And we’ve come to believe this is just who we are. But what if it’s not? What if these thoughts, these fears, these patterns… weren’t yours to begin with?

The Survival Code You Didn’t Choose

From a neuroscience standpoint, the brain is incredibly adaptive. When we grow up in environments filled with fear, emotional unpredictability, or constant criticism, our brains rewire themselves for one thing: survival.

Fear becomes the teacher. Shame becomes the leash. Anxiety becomes the strategy.

They trained you to anticipate danger, read micro-expressions, and stay small. Your nervous system learned to stay in a state of hypervigilance—not because you’re broken, but because that’s what kept you safe. Over time, this way of being gets cemented into neural pathways. It feels automatic. It feels like you.

But it’s not.

This is survival mode. It’s a program. It’s not your personality—it’s your protection.

Uninstalling the Old Software

Here’s the good news: just like software, mental programming can be rewritten.

The moment you start noticing your thoughts and asking, “Is this fear mine, or was it planted in me?”—you’re beginning the process of reprogramming.

Neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to change—is your superpower. One empowered thought at a time, you can build new neural pathways. You can stop defaulting to fear. You can choose belief systems that actually support you, not the version of you someone else needed to control.

This is how healing happens—not overnight, but one conscious, courageous choice at a time.

Who Do You Want to Be?

You are not obligated to stay loyal to the script they gave you. You get to write your own. You get to choose:

• A belief that brings peace instead of panic

• A voice that speaks truth instead of an apology

• A self-image rooted in power, not performance

You get to live big. Bold. Free.

Your Turn

If you’re done living by someone else’s rules—if you’re ready to break the cycle and reclaim your mind—start with this one word:

REPROGRAM.

Say it out loud. Write it down. Let it be the beginning of your new operating system—one rooted in truth, safety, and your full, radiant self.

You’ve been programmed to live small. But one empowered thought at a time, you can take your mind—and your life—back.