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Jackie Miller

Don't Tell Me to "Let Go of The Past"

Updated: Jul 11, 2024


Have you ever been told to “let go of the past” and found yourself bristling at the suggestion? I know I have. For the longest time, those words felt like an affront to the pain and struggles I had experienced. It seemed like a dismissive way of invalidating my feelings and the significance of my past experiences. Little did I know that these simple words were the key to unlocking a profound sense of freedom and empowerment within me.


During my marriage and through my divorce, I faced numerous challenges that left deep emotional scars. My past was riddled with moments of pain and disappointment. As I navigated through life, these experiences became ingrained in my identity, shaping how I viewed myself and the world around me. I carried them like a burden, allowing them to weigh me down and dictate my present reality.


So when well-meaning friends and family members advised me to “let go of the past,” it felt like they were asking me to erase a part of myself, to deny the very essence of who I was. How could I simply forget the pain, the heartache, the lessons learned through adversity? It seemed impossible and, frankly, unfair.

But as time went on and I delved deeper into my journey of self-discovery and personal growth, I began to realize the true meaning behind those words. Letting go of the past wasn’t about denying or forgetting my experiences; it was about releasing the grip they had on me, freeing myself from the chains of resentment, regret, and bitterness.


I learned that holding onto the past only served to perpetuate my suffering, keeping me stuck in a perpetual cycle of pain and negativity. By clinging to old wounds and grievances, I was depriving myself of the opportunity to fully embrace the present moment and create a brighter future for myself.

Slowly but surely, I started to loosen my grip on the past, one painful memory at a time. It wasn’t easy, and there were moments when I faltered and found myself slipping back into old patterns of thought and behavior. But with each step forward, I felt a sense of liberation and empowerment wash over me.

I began to understand that letting go of the past wasn’t a sign of weakness but rather an act of courage and self-love. It was a conscious choice to reclaim my power and control my narrative. Instead of allowing my past to define me, I saw it as a stepping stone on the path to becoming the person I was meant to be.


Today, I no longer cringe at the words “let go of the past.” Instead, I embrace them wholeheartedly, knowing they hold the key to my freedom and happiness. I’ve realized that the past doesn’t have to dictate my future; I am the author of my own story and can write a beautiful new chapter filled with love, joy, and endless possibilities.


So, if you find yourself struggling to let go of the past, I urge you to take a deep breath and trust in the process. It may not happen overnight, but with patience, perseverance, and a willingness to let go of what no longer serves you, you can experience the same sense of liberation and empowerment



I have found this on my own journey. Embrace the freedom that comes from releasing the past, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never thought possible.



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